"I'm sorry, Audrey."

One of Audrey's favorite nighttime games is pulling mine and Morgan's hair. Last night she was extra excited about her little game and Morgan was, understandably, getting a bit pissy. I had turned over and was not watching what was happening when I heard Audrey cry her "I am hurt" cry. I asked Morgan if she had hurt Audrey and she said, "no." I didn't make a big deal about it and tended to Audrey. A few minutes later Audrey had fallen asleep. All was quiet until Morgan said slowly, "Mommy I didn't tell you the truth." "I did hurt Audrey and I am sorry." I explained that she may want to tell Audrey that she was sorry in the morning. She thought a moment and then wanted to know why she had to wait. I pointed out that Audrey was currently asleep. Morgan was audibly disappointed and started to whisper to Audrey, "I am so sorry I hurt you. I will tell you tomorrow." When Morgan was through talking and lay there with her arm draped over Audrey's back, I spoke. I told her I understood why she would want to hurt Audrey because it really hurts when Audrey pulls our hair. I explained that Audrey was still very young and thought pulling our hair was a game and wasn't hurting her on purpose. I then pointed out that she had hurt meant to hurt Audrey. I didn't really say much after that, just stated it. Morgan just whispered again, "I am sorry Audrey."
The entire interaction was entirely genuine. It reinforced the reasons why I do not "make" her apologize or even make a big deal when I feel like she isn't telling the truth. I really have given her the freedom to develop her own sense of empathy and critical thinking. Its awesome to watch.